Today is our 12th Anniversary. I am happily married since 2012. Yay!
Ours is not a perfect love story. Our relationship began on the wrong foot. Lacking a clear understanding of the proper courtship and marriage process, we made mistakes and took missteps, guided only by a list of what to do and what not to do.
Realizing that we were missing the fundamental principles behind the term "relationship,"
we committed ourselves to learning and growth. Despite our initial missteps, our eagerness to understand the essentials for a lasting relationship prompted us to apply these principles within the confines of our marriage.
I'd love to share these ten keys to guide you in avoiding the mistakes we made so you can start on your journey with a clear understanding of these essential principles.
These insights, learned through our own experiences, can guide you before committing to a relationship:
1. Personal Growth:
Have you spent time on personal growth and self-discovery?
You must know who you are and what you want in life. Marriage is about helping your partner achieve his or her goals. It is giving more than receiving. It is important to have a clear purpose when entering into a relationship to effectively manage it. JOIN OUR FREE DISCOVER YOUR WHY CHALLENGE.
2. Emotional Maturity:
Are you emotionally mature, and able to handle stress, disappointments, and conflicts constructively?
You must be willing to work through challenges rather than avoiding or escalating conflicts.
3. Communication Skills:
Are you a good communicator, able to express your thoughts and feelings openly, and listen actively?
Authentic communication involves effectively conveying not just your words, but also your intentions, while also being able to actively listen and comprehend others.
4. Financial Stability:
Are you financially stable and able to manage your finances responsibly?
Love can't feed your hungry stomach, can't pay bills, and can't buy the baby's needs. Before getting married, it's important to have a reliable source of income, with the man ideally having stable employment or source of income.
5. Vision for your future family
What do you envision for your family?
Begin your relationship with the end in mind on how you see each family member feel valued and encouraged to pursue their passions and dreams.
6. Time Management:
Can you manage your time effectively to balance work, personal interests, and your relationship?
7. Health and Well-being:
Are you in good physical and mental health?
8. Knowledge:
Do you know the essence and purpose of marriage?
Knowing your WHYs before marriage gives you a clear understanding of whom to marry and why you should marry.
9. Responsibility:
Entering marriage is not a "bed of roses" experience. It means being responsible for someone's welfare. Are you ready to take care of your little one once he arrives? Are you excited to establish a close relationship with the loved ones of your future partner?
Developing a positive relationship with your future in-laws takes time and effort. However, once achieved, they can become a trusted source of support during unexpected challenges.
10. Prayer:
This is not a religious activity, rather, it's a necessity.
Prayer means you want to receive guidance, protection, and wisdom from the Sovereign power who authored your love story.
These considerations are personal, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. It's important, to be honest with yourself and work on these principles.
Love yourself first and know who you are before trying to bring out the best in someone else.
The journey of marriage is like setting sail on a captivating adventure. Your success in marriage and the promise of a lifelong partnership depends on your decisions and actions.
Share some of your marriage tips, we're glad to hear from you.
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